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Ok if there is ANYONE who HATES being snapped at for things outside of my control, or when someone snaps at me for no reason, or whatever, that person is me! My very first blog post was inspired by a co-worker who was snappy at me for no particular reason other than the fact she was stressed-and I get that we all get stressed and our tempers run short, but I think that as professional adults, it's important to remember that no matter what we are feeling, we can not take our emotions out on other people.I used to work at this office downtown about a year ago and I remember one day where my boss, who was a micro-managing tyrant who thought way too highly of himself chose to bring me into the conference room, with all my co-workers, and chew me out in front of them and I remember wanting to throw my stapler at his face. It was one of the worst moments of my life-I felt like such an insignificant person. And then right after that, I could hear him from my desk in the copy room laughing with my other co-workers, totally acting like nothing inappropriate just happened. And then-about 2 hours later he comes to my desk apologizing saying and I remember cutting him off, and taking him into his office letting him know that no one in my entire life has ever made me feel so worthless and that's the truth!Anyway, I hope that you're night got better. Just remember, you are in control of you, and you alone, if other people are going to be stupid, that's their problem!
I think I don't like that person alot...I have this technique that I use when that happens to me especially when its inappropriate. It's difficult to do unless you practice so the second time is always better. I just blink, blink and say "Are you having a bad day? You seem angry." It doesn't always work because they make you feel less than...and if your self esteem isn't healthy that day...never mind.Hope they fall and break a tooth!http://bbonnieblue.blogspot.com/
Oh my gosh Bonnieblue that is the best advice ever! I should have asked my old boss that when he said that to me! I don't like him very much either-I lost a lot of respect for him after we had that incident...when he did apologize to me he was saying how his mother in Florida was ill, etc etc. and this incident happened a month before my wedding and I looked at him and said, "You know, I don't know if you're aware or not, but I'm getting married in a month, so I have a lot going on my life too-that's why you need to be aware of what you say because you're not the only one who is stressed." After that he didn't really say much other than apologize again and promise he would never speak to me like that again. I quit the job a few months later!You're right though-they make you feel so small that even if I had the best come back, I would still sit there and cry!
wow, rebecca. that sucks. im sorry =(i didnt go through something quite that bad, but it still got to me..... ya know?i just ignore them. and i tend to get very quiet and un-talkative and nonsmiley. very unusual for me.. oh well. i got over it.hahahhahaha bonnie!! youre like a genius of sorts.but hope they fall and break a tooth??? hahah. nah, thats not very me. i just ignore them and pull into myself for a while. like an emotional turtle of sorts..and then i get over it, and feel a little better.thanks for your empathy, guys =D
I wish I could become an emotional turtle when people piss me off! Instead I just got hot-tempered and feisty, and then after that subsides, I start thinking what I could have done differently to somehow not have allowed the situation to happen--it's a bad cycle!Sweet pea-what state are you in?
sometimes i wish i could be hot tempered and feisty. but later, i decide that i would probably say something that would later be regretted... =Pthe most eastern most southern state in america.=)
I wish the same too--for a period of my teenage life I tried being the hot tempered, feisty person but that only got me so far before I realized that people really start to think you're a "B-word" and I did usually regret what I said.Ok so...Florida...?
yupp...... thats probably what people would think of me. and i'm not one of those, so i don't want to make the impression that i am..
and yes. florida.
Florida sounds so nice compared to MN and the 21 inches of snow we just received...
oh wowwwwwwwwww. honestly, i wouldn't really mind living in a snowy place. well. unless i had to go to work in spite of the snow. THEN i'd mind =P
When I used to work downtown (at the office where my boss yelled at me) it would take me 3+ hours to get home from work some nights in the winter in the middle of rush hour. That was never fun. I certainly do not miss doing that at all! Now it's nice because I work for a great boss who totally doesn't care if I'm late-or can't even come into work because of the weather.
thats awesome. i'm glad you found a better job for yourself =]
Thanks! Yeah my new job is MUCH better--in so many ways!
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